Relation between Emotional Development of an Individual and the Role of Primary Caregivers

Ever since I have been on the journey of getting to know myself emotionally, I have been exploring the relationship between the conditioned mind and our upbringing - the role of our primary caregivers. Here on, PCs.

The way we view our world is quite dependent on our PCs. Our lives and our world views begin at home. Our nervous system, our subconscious and our relating mind is moulded by all that is perceived at home.

As babies, when we do not have a sense of self, how others relate to us becomes the core way we begin to relate to ourselves. How others perceive us, becomes how we perceive ourselves. We mould our behaviours with how others perceive us because we believe that identity is our sense of self.

The PCs are integral to the children they bring into this world. Primordially, procreation was an act of survival. The initial humans needed more of our kind to survive a world, that was largely unknown, and unexplored.

Historically, procreation then became a subject of societal expectations and a status to uphold. In fact, in many regions around the world, the gender of the child also heightened or lowered one's social status.

Your child is NOT an extension of you

Another aspect was that children were brought into this world so the couple could be taken care of in their old age. This was considered a duty of the offspring before they were born.

In this day and age, I have been noticing people around me have been focusing on emotional development - working through their past conditioning to make way for their liberated selves. This requires a sense of self-awareness, noticing historical patterns, being attuned to oneself, and self-accountability.

A lot of emotional energy is being expended in this process, and many people are choosing not to procreate - a matter of personal choice. According to my observations, they understand the emotional, physical and financial responsibility that comes with having to bear a child and raise it to become a healthy individual.

As a fellow human, and as a PSA - I want to add that you are accountable and free to make your choices. However, ensure that you and your partner(s) are physically fit, emotionally healthy, and financially secure before you move ahead with the decision.

Any other driving force for this (emotional blackmail, biological clock ticking, fear of regret, peer pressure or any other expectation) could leave you and your child in a vulnerable place. The world you create for your child is the world that they're going to perceive at their core. Make sure its a safe place for them.